Adrian "Ben" Louis Lavoie

  • Born: August 31, 1926
  • Died: June 8, 2020
  • Location: Wolfeboro, New Hampshire

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Tribute & Message From The Family


Beloved husband, father, grandfather and friend

Adrian Louis Lavoie "Ben", age 93, formerly of Bethlehem, passed away on June 8, 2020 in Wolfeboro NH. Ben was born on August 31st, 1926 in Littleton, NH to Wilfred and Cecile Lavoie. He was the middle of seven children, and was preceded in death by four.

Ben attended Bethlehem High School and was the owner-operator of the Lotta Rock Dairy Processing Plant. He and Florence Jane Lyster were married on June 10th, 1950. They were devoted soulmates for 70 years. They had three children; Thomas (died 1965), Daniel, and Ellen (Smith).

Ben and Florence lived in Bethlehem for 48 years, wintering in Arizona for 13 years. In 2002, they relocated to Sugar Hill Retirement Community in Wolfeboro, NH. Ben's talents were many. He was a skilled business owner, avid golfer and square dancer, and beloved husband, father, grandfather and friend. He enjoyed gardening, and was known by the residents of Sugar Hill for his amazing sunflowers. He loved a good meal and thoroughly enjoyed cooking; some of his best recipes included sour pickles, fudge, and rhubarb pie. He was also a talented handyman and could fix almost anything. Ben passed away as a devout Christian, and a kind, generous man who never hesitated to help his family and friends.

Ben is preceded in death by his siblings Joseph, Helene, Robert, and Charles, and his son Thomas. He is survived by his wife Florence Jane, sister Jeanette Enderson and brother Maurice Lavoie, son Daniel Lavoie and his partner Robin, daughter Ellen Lavoie Smith and her husband Andrew, grandchild Sarah Patin and her husband Nick, grandchildren Asa and Sam Smith, and great-grandchild Reese Patin.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be directed to one of two charities: the Sugar Hill Retirement Community's gardening fund or Saint Katherine of Drexel Catholic Church, Alton, NH; Charity Account.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Young on the farm, l would watch out the window for Uncle Ben to come walking down with his walking stick for a visit. Always an exciting adventure, he always shared his love and caring with a story. His stature was great and gentle for all to recieve his love and care.
I miss you greatly Uncle Ben!

Posted by Gene Mullaney Mullaney - Florence, VT - Family   June 01, 2021

I miss my father so so much. I recall so many times over my lifetime when he was there for me to teach me and support me. He was so kind and generous. He never really thought of himself as a smart man but he was brilliant in so many ways. I will never forget the day when he helped me to find some very special birch tree saplings that I could cut down and bring back to my home in Michigan as a remembrance of New Hampshire. He was in his early 90s at the time but he walked with us, helped to select the trees, and even helped to cut them down and drag them out of the woods. Such a simple gesture but I have those trees now in my home as a forever memorial to him. As a child, I remember many times when I was nervous or afraid and all he would have to do was grab my hand. His hands were so large and encompassing and he just made the world feel like a safe place. He was also such an incredible role model as a husband. He was my mother's rock and would always help her when she felt nervous or afraid too. His deep love for her, and devotion to his soulmate of 70 years are qualities that I hope have been imparted to my own sons. I am comforted to know that he lives in all of us now and forever. I inherited his knees! Goodbye Dad.

Posted by Ellen Smith - Pinckney, MI - Daughter   July 02, 2020

Words fail me when speaking of this dear brother. Many times have I heard: "Jeannette , I love all your brothers but I would die for Ben!" A man of great physical, moral and spiritual strength. He tolerated no wrongs . His love for dear Flossie grew day by day. He instilled in his children the same values that he lived by. I shall miss holding his rough , calloused hand and his delightful sense of humor. Jeannette Lavoie Enderson (Ben's sister, 95)

Posted by jeannette enderson - berwyn heights, MD - Sister   June 18, 2020

I was stunned to hear of Ben's passing. My wife Beverly and I have many fond memories of Ben and Florence from the days when I first joined the Knights of Columbus in Littleton and the days that I worked at the dairy one summer. We will keep the whole family in our thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Douglas Roberge - Navarre, FL - Friend   June 15, 2020

With sincere condolences, Ellen. Lovely, and not surprising to read about where you got all of what makes you so special.

Posted by judith rocchio rocchio - WHITE RIVER JUNCTION, VT - Friend   June 14, 2020

RIP Ben. Our sincere condolences to the family. Leo &Doris Demers

Posted by Leo Demers - Whitefield, NH - Friend   June 13, 2020

Rest In Peace Uncle Ben and condolences to the entire Lavoie family. Ben was loved by all and had a caring, witty and down to earth way of brightening up your day that came straight from his heart. May memories of Ben provide peace and comfort to family and friends.

Posted by Bric and Gloria Mullaney - Venice, FL - Family   June 13, 2020

Uncle Ben'. Loved by all. One in a million. A Truly good man

Love to Ben's family, Flossie, Danny, Ellen and grandkids.
Love Jamie & Robin Mullaney. (Helene's son)

Posted by James Mullaney - Seymour, CT - Family   June 12, 2020

God speed my beloved Uncle Ben. You were always a gentle, wry witted, kind, salt of the earth man. Seeing you walk down Old Franconia Road to Grammy's us when us kids were up visiting, always made the day. Each visit, you made sure we had all the Lotta Rock ice cream us 11 Mullaney kids could eat. I will miss you and keep you in my heart. Your niece, Lennie Mullaney

Posted by Lennie Mullaney - Portsmouth, NH - Family   June 12, 2020

My sympathy and prayers,
Roger Melanson

Posted by Roger Melanson - St. Johnsbury, VT - Acquaintance   June 12, 2020


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