Martin Oppenheimer

  • Born: July 29, 1927
  • Died: November 16, 2020
  • Location: Tilton, New Hampshire

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Tribute & Message From The Family

Message From The Family

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Martin "Marty" Oppenheimer, 93, died November 16, 2020 at the New Hampshire Veterans Home, Tilton from complications related to COVID-19.

Born on July 29, 1927 in Limburg, Germany, he is the son of the late Felix and Else (Sternberg) Oppenheimer. Martin came to the United States with his family in 1938 and became a naturalized citizen while serving in the United States Army as a military police officer during World War II. Martin married the love of his life, Ellen (Simon) on May 2, 1954 in New York City.

Following his military service, Martin worked as a Lithographer in the commercial printing industry for over 40 years. A man of countless talents, he was a painter, musician, model ship builder, bowler, avid stamp collector, and ham radio operator. For over 20 years he served as a volunteer fireman in Briarcliff Manor, NY. Throughout their life together, Martin cherished dancing and taking long walks with his beloved wife, Ellen.

Martin's credo and favorite poem echoes his life and beliefs:

INVICTUS (Unconquerable)
By William Ernest Henley

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.

Martin is survived by his soul mate, Ellen, with whom he shared more than 66 years; three children, Nancy LeVinus and her husband Rich of Franklin, NH, Susan Meller and her husband Mark of Norwalk, CT and Philip Oppenheimer and his wife Helen of Glendale, Arizona; and several nephews, a niece, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

ARRANGEMENTS: No formal services will be held at this time. Assisting the family with arrangements is the Phaneuf Funeral Homes and Crematorium, Boscawen.

In lieu of flowers, those who wish may make a memorial contribution in Martin's name to the New Hampshire Veterans Home Resident Benefit Fund, New Hampshire Veterans Home, 139 Winter Street, Tilton, NH, 03276 or to The Friends Program, 202 North State Street, Concord, NH 03301.

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Condolence & Memory Journal

I am so sorry to hear of Mr. Oppenheimer's passing. I am the mayor of Montgomery Township, New Jersey and some of the harassment I have faced as a Muslim and South Asian woman was discussed in our local newspaper, The Montgomery News. Mr. Oppenheimer sent in a beautiful letter to the editor that read > Words cannot really express how supported I felt reading these words. As the year draws to a close, I wanted to reach out to him and thank him for his sustaining message and I am so sad I was never able to tell him how much they meant to me. My condolences to all who loved him. He was clearly a man who touched many lives.

Posted by Sadaf Jaffer - Montgomery Township, NJ - Neighbor   December 30, 2020

Dear Ellen
I know we only knew each other for a short while in the Hannah Dustin unit at the Veterans Home but I so enjoyed our visits over the past year. My Dad is Phil Shepard and my name is Ginny his daughter. If you recall he was moved to Highland Hall the end of January 2020.The last time we saw each other you were sitting on the bench at the entranceway waiting for your daughter to come and pick you up. I just wanted to convey my deepest sympathy to you and your family Ellen after learning of Marty's passing. You were dedicated and a warm loving wife to Marty. Always will remember the little chocolates you would pass out to all. May he rest in peace.

Posted by Ginny Knoettner - Bedford, NH - Acquaintance   December 14, 2020

Such sad news about someone who I only have fond memories. Martin and Ellen were true soulmates. May his memory be for a blessing.
Carole Oppenheimer Klein

Posted by Carole Klein - Chevy Chase, MD - Family   December 04, 2020

Martin, with the heip of his wife Ellen, lived his life with dignity. He greeted all with a wry welcoming smile.

Posted by John J. Kelly - Neighbor   November 27, 2020

Condolences to Ellen and her entire family from Dr Azimov, Gayle,Charlene and the entire staff our thoughts are with you

Posted by Charlene Peterson    November 25, 2020

To Ellen & Family...I was very saddened to learn of Marty's passing. He was a good man of strong principle. While sometimes of differing opinions one had to respect his passion & all of us at Hadley Village Condominiums who knew him sincerely appreciated his dedication, service & efforts to better the Village for all. We both shared our common heritage as emigres from Germany, serving in the military police & as former call fire fighters - all bonds that are hard to break. Marty lived a very fulfilling live & I pray that happy memories of good times past help assuage your grief at this difficult time.

Posted by Dave Toplon - Friend   November 25, 2020

Dear Ellen and Family

We were so sorry to learn about Marty. He was a good man of many talents. We miss you and think of you both often. May he rest in Peace.

Your former neighbor,
Janet Stache

Posted by jan Stache - Friend   November 22, 2020

We are grateful for Martin's service and mourn his passing. Our condolences are sent to his family, and we will keep him and you in our thoughts and prayers.
Briarcliff Manor Fire Department Hook & Ladder Co.

Posted by Briarcliff Manor FD Hook & Ladder Co. - Briarcliff Manor, NY   November 22, 2020

Ellen, my sincere condolences to you and your family. Marty was a sweet and caring man with a big heart. He will be missed.

Posted by Kathy Dubchak    November 22, 2020

Ellen. so very sorry to hear of Martin's passing. He was a great man and will be missed--Stan & all the geeks at GoGeeks Computer Rescue

Posted by Stan Prager - Acquaintance   November 20, 2020

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