Carmela (Ciampacone) Racicot

  • Born: November 19, 1929
  • Died: December 20, 2020
  • Location: Manchester, New Hampshire

Phaneuf Funeral Homes & Crematorium - Hanover Street

243 Hanover Street
Manchester, NH 03104
Tel. (603) 625-5777

Tribute & Message From The Family

Loving Mother, Grandmother and Great-Grandmother

Carmela (Ciampacone) Racicot, 91, passed away on December 20, 2020, at the Elliot Hospital in Manchester, New Hampshire, after a brief illness. She was born in Montreal, Canada on November 19, 1929, daughter to Antonio and Giovannina (Aquilante) Ciampacone.

Carmela married Raymond J. Graveline on November 5, 1949, in Montreal. The couple moved to the United States in 1951, and spent time in New Haven, Connecticut before settling in Manchester, New Hampshire. Carmela became a U.S. citizen in 1960. She had four children with Raymond and was widowed in 1968.

Carmela married World War II veteran and P.O.W. Albert H. ("Russ") Racicot on June 30, 1987, at the Sacred Heart Church in Manchester. Russ died in 2000 after a lengthy and debilitating illness throughout which Carmela served as his loving and devoted caregiver. She spent most of her remaining years in the home she cherished on the West Side of Manchester, finding companionship and joy with her beloved dogs, first Lucky, then Oscar. She became a resident of the Bedford Hills Center nursing home in Bedford in November of 2020.

Along with her husbands, Carmela was predeceased by her oldest son, George Graveline and by a daughter-in-law, Elva Graveline, her younger son's wife. She is survived by one brother, Anthony Champagne of Toronto, Canada. Other members of her family include a daughter and son-in-law, Nancy and Domenic DeFronzo of Merrimack, NH, another daughter and son-in-law, Debra and Denis Depelteau of Hooksett, NH, her youngest son, Michael Graveline of North Stonington, CT and daughter-in-law, Rebecca Graveline of Bedford, NH, her older son's widow. Carmela also leaves behind six grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren.

Carmela's primary occupation was that of a housewife and homemaker. She was a skilled seamstress, talented at cross stitch, knitting and crocheting and loved to share her beautiful creations with family and friends. She liked to go dancing on Saturday nights at the Venetian Ballroom in Pine Island Park with her first husband and dearest friends, Joe and Irma Houle. Carmela enjoyed reading and liked pretty things. She was a meticulous housekeeper and excellent cook and loved nothing more than having her children and grandchildren visit. She had an ability to become fast friends with anyone who came into her life and was especially close to her grandson, Dana Depelteau. Carmela will be fondly remembered for her creativity, her love of animals, and an endearing delight she took from small, simple things.

Debra Depelteau would like to thank the entire staff at the Bedford Hills Center for their kindness and care of her mother during the final weeks of Carmela's life.

A celebration of Carmela's life will take place at the Phaneuf Funeral Home at 243 Hanover Street, in Manchester, NH 03104 on January 9, 2021, with a gathering from 9AM-10AM and a memorial service at 10AM. Carmela will be laid to rest beside her first husband at St. Joseph's Cemetery in Bedford.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations in Carmela's name are encouraged to be sent to the New Hampshire Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to AnimalsĀ® (NH SPCA).


Condolence & Memory Journal

Ma, I am truly saddened. I will always look back at the times we shared, my humor was my way of showing and sharing how you would laugh and smile at life. I hope that you will find comfort in the arms of an angel. You will be missed. Love you. Domenic

Posted by Domenic Defronzo - Merrimack, NH - Family   January 05, 2021

Mom I will miss the laughter and talks we shared. You had your funny ways about you that made me laugh . You loved your pasta . The lord has taken you home and you will be free of pain and suffering. You will remain in my heart , till we meet again . As difficult as it is for me to have lost you , I have peace in my heart that now you are in peace. I love you mom ! And you will truly be missed. oxoxox

Posted by Nancy DeFronzo - Merrimack, NH - Daughter   January 03, 2021

Carmela was born November 19, 1929 and was baptized on March 2, 1930 in Notre-Dame du Mont-Carmel Church, MONTREAL, P.Quebec. Her first husband Raymond Graveline was born May 16, 1929 in Montreal, P. Quebec and baptized on May 19, 1929 in Notre-Dame du Perpetuel Secours Church, in Ville Emard, MONTREAL, P. Quebec.

Author of The Descendants of Urbain Baudreau dit Graveline.

Posted by Normand J. Allard - Saint-Eustache, QC   December 28, 2020

I will always remember you for your great Italian dishes . But most all the trust you had in me with taking care of your daughter which you told me many times . Love you and will always remember you in my thoughts.

Posted by Denis Depelteau - Hooksett, NH - Family   December 27, 2020

My heartfelt condolences to all family and friends. Carmen was one of a kind. She brought much joy into the lives of those she encountered. She will be missed.

Posted by Robert Houle - Boston, MA - Family Friend   December 27, 2020

Well Carmen we sure go back a long way...mother to my oldest and dearest friend. I treasure the many pleasant memories hanging out at your house as a youngster. I still have the gorgeous christening gown that you crocheted for Mary and her elephant sweater. And Ray will never forget Ma tante ziti. The best maker of sauce ever!! Enjoy dancing with the angels, Carmen! XXOO

Posted by Karen and Ray Garon - Auburn, NH - Friend   December 27, 2020


We wish to extend our heartfelt Condolences to all the Family
on the Death of your Mother.
Carmen was always a Dear Friend to Joe and myself
We will miss her dearly.
May she rests in peace.

Mr and Mrs Joseph Houle
Dec 27.2020

Posted by Irma Houle - Manchester, NH - Friend   December 27, 2020

We are sending our condoleances to all the family ! We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

Larry and Andrea Richard, Manchester NH - December 25, 2020.

Posted by Andrea Richard Richard - Manchester, NH - Family Friend   December 25, 2020

Carmen found beauty in everything. She would wander through your house, enchanted by pictures, knick knacks and even the view from a window. Her delight was contagious - in that moment, you would see the beauty and wonder in those small things, too. Rest in peace with George and others who left before us, Carmen. I hope you're discovering beauty and joy again in everything around you.

Posted by Rebecca Graveline - Bedford, NH - Family   December 23, 2020

Mom you will always be in my heart and just know how very much I will miss you and love you.. Your with your Angels and I know they will take good care of you.. Remember that you did do it your way.. I love you..XOXO

Posted by Debra Depelteau - Hooksett, NH - Family   December 23, 2020

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