Henry Proia

  • Died: January 15, 2021
  • Location: Concord, New Hampshire

Phaneuf Funeral Homes & Crematorium

172 King Street
Boscawen , NH 03303

Tel. (603) 625-5777

Tribute & Message From The Family

January 15, 2021

I lost my rock today. We met 33 years ago, you a drummer in the band, me looking good in my favorite black pants. You invited me to dinner, we've been together since.

You told me how your dad, Julius, went back to Tunisia after WWII to bring back his bride, Elena, to St Johnsbury, Vermont. There, you and your brother Mario grew up in a home filled with Italian love, atmosphere, and food.

You spent many afternoons at your grandmother Maria's store. You read all the latest comic books and learned all about the grocery business. You were so proud of her, coming to America as a young woman, speaking no English and with just a few dollars in her pocket.

You joined the Navy after high school. You served as a corpsman in Vietnam and at the Naval Hospital in Philadelphia. You returned to St. Johnsbury and raised two children – Aaron and Alexis. They grew into loving, responsible adults and parents.

You studied psychology and European History at Lyndon State College, worked full time as a corrections officer. You were active in the Boy Scouts, a member of the Order of the Arrow. You also spent many years working for your dear friend, Dennis, at the Green Mountain Trading Post.

You helped me raise my own little boy, Jonathan, into a strong man. You made sure he never came home to an empty house.

You had a deep fondness for music, especially the blues, and learned how to play the congo drums as well. You told me how you hiked the White Mountains, camped for weeks at a time, a pastime you passed on to Alexis. You could identify so many birds – you took your scope to the ocean to see the migrating gulls.
The ocean was a favorite place we shared – Room 11 was where we spent many hours getting renewed to deal with life. You would sit, with a cigar and a glass of whiskey just enjoying the view of the water and lighthouse in York, Maine. We often talked about someday retiring there.

We are the grandparents of a large family. Aaron ad his wife Beth have three special children, Itzac, who recently married Maire, Emma and Camryn. Alexis blessed us with Jazmine, a young woman with determination and compassion like her mom. She also rides a mean unicycle. Jonathan has added to the group, Kayleigh, Blake, and Jordynn. They all have captured our hearts.

You lovingly supported me all these years while I worked at the hospital, a variety of shifts, weekends and holidays. You always made sure dinner was ready when I got home. I am so going to miss hearing your voice. I called you at home, a few times a day, no matter how difficult the shift was, I would hear, "Hi Susie" and it helped me get through the day. You gave me so much and taught me so much more. Your love is what I will always cherish.

Love Forever, Sue

There will be no services held publicly. Phaneuf Funeral Homes & Crematorium is assisting the family with arrangements. To view an online memorial, leave a message of condolence, or for more information please go to www.phaneuf.net.

Condolence & Memory Journal

If it is possible to have a best friend on the internet Hank would be mine. We shared a love of music above everything else even the cigars and whisky that tied us together originally. I only knew Hank for 15 years and considering that he was a Squid and I a Jarhead that is really saying something. We'll have a hell of a party when we meet up Brother.

Posted by Ray Knuth - PA - Friend   January 28, 2021

I never had the pleasure to meet Hank in person but got to know him over the years from our shared love of cigars. He taught many of us about his passion for music, cigars, whiskey and life in general and a great many of us are grateful for our time we got to spend with him. My prayers are with his family and his memory will not be forgotten by me.

Posted by Clint Cavanah - Friend   January 28, 2021

I have never met Hank in person but I can tell you he had an affect on me and I’m positive many, many others. Our cigar community is a special one and Hank was one of the reasons. I had many conversations with him in our forum and he inspired me to be better. I’m from the west coast and he would refer to me as Paul said “flat lander” I always looked forward to his birthday wish, it was always the same. “Happy birthday young fella”
I learned a lot from him. Thank you Sir for your service, and your kindness. Under that gruff exterior was a great man. He will be missed.

Posted by Matt Frick - Friend   January 28, 2021

Hank and I only met one time but his passion for Cigars brought us together and for that one day meeting face to face with a Legend from our online cigar community I knew he was a great man! The stories he would share with some of us about his family and the time he spent every year at the beach were touching and you knew he was a great guy. A few of us on the forum were just asking about Doc (as we know him) and where he has been. My heart goes out to his entire family and for those that do not know he was a big part of so many lives that never met him. Being from VT he would always refer to us as flat landers or call all of us young fella when wishing us happy birthday. I know I speak for so many when I say the CigarPass.com community will miss Doc deeply!

Until we meet again, cheers my friend!
Paul Harrison (Tall Paul) Derry, NH

Posted by Paul Harrison - Derry, NH - Friend   January 27, 2021

Hank, I only met you once. But, if Sue was as devoted to you as she was, then I know you meant more than the world to her. I am sorry for your passing & hope that Sue can recover. I will be there for her!

Posted by Rae Bonenfant - Friend   January 21, 2021

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